Diary of A Christian Law Lady

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Working on this blog, I first wanted to title it “Unhealthy comparison”, but really no form of comparison ever really is healthy. I think the only place where comparison ever helps is in literature where we place characters side by side and examine them. Outside that, in real life comparison can be unwise and will not always give the best of results. How do we then keep the energy to do better as people when we see others thriving? Let’s find out😊

Comparison is something we deal with as people. Sometimes it just gets so easy to do it, especially since the whole bunch of us see, and when our emotions haven’t been disciplined, as we see we get into a state of spotting out all the difference between what we have seen in someone, or something they have that’s not in us.

Comparison then becomes worse off when we think we deserve somethings more than those who have them. However darlings, life doesn’t offer us what we deserve but rather what we demand from it. This post is however not on demanding from life, but dealing with unwise comparison.

I really love what 2 Corinthians 10:12 says about comparison >

Of course, we wouldn’t dare to put ourselves in the same class or compare ourselves with those who rate themselves so highly. They compare themselves to one another and make up their own standards to measure themselves by, and then they judge themselves by their own standards. What self-delusion!
2 Corinthians 10:12 TPT

The passage here says that it is clear that there are a set of people who have set some standards for themselves, and here it’s definitely not a standard based on God’s principles. They qualify themselves by such standards and when it seems they have gotten a hang of living up to the standard, they get others in on their comparison party and measure them by their self-drafted standards also. I know there’s a lot of activity going on in this statement 🙃. Now, that’s exactly how comparison works too. It has lots of activities, keeps you busy spotting out all the differences your life doesn’t seem to have. Then eventually we find people trying but getting little or nowhere cos they have expended so much time trying to match up with the wrong standards.

Comparison can do us really bad. When I was younger, as much as I really loved food and eating, I valued moderation and had quite a number of preferences. There was this time when we spent the holiday with my cousins at Ghana. We went shopping and most of the items we bought were all goodies and munchies. There was so much to keep our mouths busy. There was this particular packet of potato chips that was so sour none of us could eat it, save a cousin of mine who ate it like it wasn’t bad. Sadly, we had gotten two big bags of it and I watched her eat it with so much vigour that I felt left out. Within minutes I grabbed a bag of chips dived right into it, it was such an unpleasant experience but I didn’t give up I ate every last bit of it. If she could eat it then I could too.

Fast forward to later on, we had bought a bucket of ice cream and everyone had gotten a fair share but my cousin wasn’t one to stop at one. I watched her repeatedly go back for more, and once again I thought to myself that I couldn’t be left out. I went back to the bucket and dished out a heavy serving of ice cream for myself. It felt good at first but the pleasure was temporary.

The result was that while my cousin was a child, almost a pre-teen, I was a teenager then and that night my period came with the worst cramps ever. I was hooked to my bed and couldn’t move anywhere. When I did attempt to move I was bent over. I remember crying to my mum and saying ” It’s ice cream ooo. It’s ice cream😭” . Now that I think about it, it wasn’t one bit funny that night. I got better by afternoon the next day though. However, afterwards I learnt a good lesson of sticking with my discipline and not giving in to just every feeling of ‘ Someone else is doing it so I can too ‘.

We must know that comparing yourself with another person is very different from being inspired by them. Comparison is a selfish drive to show that you can do just what someone else has done and even better, however being inspired means a sincere admiration for what a person does, and a desire to also be involved in something like that if you have a heart for it.

How you know it’s comparison, is when you find yourself striving and losing your peace in a bid to try to do something, and doing it also because someone else is doing it, not because you want to. We must know that before anything thing else our reason for doing things must really be that we want to do them, cos then when you lose the zeal and ginger along the way you can always remind yourself of why you began to start with.

Also, in whatever you do, your standards should be God’s standards. When Paul asked the Christians in his letter to follow him as he followed Christ, the emphasis was never on him but on Christ. That means in as much as they took him for an example and wanted to do the great works they had seen him do, the goal was to be aligned with Christ. That means if Paul ever took a break or stopped following, it was in their place to continue in following Christ because He was the ultimate standard and only reason they ever followed Paul.

This is getting a little bit long, but in essence it is important to have an inner reason and conviction for why you do things beyond external influences and motivations. Then, be sure that you are not trying to match up with impossible standards but you are rather in tune with God’s leading for your life. In doing this you’d be preserving your heart state and motives and you’ll not be comparing yourself unwisely with others and missing out on the great things that can be happening with your life.

Never forget that God is always rooting for you and is so much interested in seeing you live out His best life for you!✨

Lovesss💕